Let's take care of each other. Please.

"BaconSandwich is tasty." (baconsandwich)
05/01/2018 at 22:35 • Filed to: None

We found out last night that a relative of ours committed suicide yesterday. She was married with two reasonably young children - one who has a physical disability. She and her family live in a distant city, but it seems to have come as a shock to everyone. I can only imagine how hard it must be on her husband and kids.

Remember that it’s okay to talk about your feelings. If you are ever feeling suicidal, talk to someone. Seek help. No one will judge you for it. Let’s all remember to take care of each other. Please.

To keep it slightly car related, the husband is a Volkswagen guy. When I last talked to him, he had a project beetle he was trying to fix up. He’s also a mechanic.

DISCUSSION (14)

nFamousCJ - Keeper of Stringbean, Gengars and a Deezul > BaconSandwich is tasty.
05/01/2018 at 22:49

In wake of such news I’d like to make a point that myself- and I’d like to think any Oppo for that matter- is available to discuss anything with anyone if it helps put you in a better place.

BlueMazda2 - Blesses the rains down in Africa, Purveyor of BMW Individual Arctic Metallic, Merci Twingo > BaconSandwich is tasty.
05/01/2018 at 22:53

My sincerest and deepest condolences to you and your family.

Peace be with you and your family.

We’re all here for you if needed.

CarsofFortLangley - Oppo Forever > nFamousCJ - Keeper of Stringbean, Gengars and a Deezul
05/01/2018 at 22:53

100% I’d be willing to help anyone out if I could, talking/meeting up, whatever.

BaconSandwich is tasty. > nFamousCJ - Keeper of Stringbean, Gengars and a Deezul
05/01/2018 at 22:56

It really is one of the most awesome parts on the internet.

That news, combined with a case of either the flu or food poisoning for me, my wife, and our oldest daughter resulted in a poor night’s sleep and a sick day. Today was pretty crappy in that regard (unable to eat anything without vomiting or diarrhea, and feeling like I have been kicked in the gut), but compared to what that family is going through, it’s nothing. I just wish there is some way to help them. Or some way to help others here that may be struggling with depression and/or anxiety. The least I can do is try to remind everyone that it’s okay to talk about your feelings. Even if you are a “macho” car guy (or girl).

shop-teacher > BaconSandwich is tasty.
05/01/2018 at 22:56

That is terrible :(

Nauraushaun > BaconSandwich is tasty.
05/01/2018 at 23:14

ITA97, now with more Jag @ opposite-lock.com > BaconSandwich is tasty.
05/01/2018 at 23:43

I’m so sorry this happened. My condolences to you and your family, and I’m always available to help any oppo in any way that I can.

Chariotoflove > BaconSandwich is tasty.
05/02/2018 at 00:00

I am so sad for her family. God bless them, and I hope she at least found peace.

pip bip - choose Corrour > BaconSandwich is tasty.
05/02/2018 at 06:55

that sucks.

was there a note?

random001 > BaconSandwich is tasty.
05/02/2018 at 06:56

Having dealt with this personally and closely, it’s a weird feeling. I’m sorry for your loss.

bob and john > BaconSandwich is tasty.
05/02/2018 at 07:24

How far away is this city? Dad and the kids need some time away from the grind. Might not be a bad idea to visit them or have them.over for a few days

You can tell a Finn but you can't tell him much > BaconSandwich is tasty.
05/02/2018 at 09:51

I dealt with a suicide in the family a couple years ago. It sucks and you’ll feel all sorts of things, everything from being pissed off at the person to unimaginable grief. All of those feelings are normal and OK and will fade over time. They won’t go away, at least not for a long time, and they’ll come back at times like their birthday or around this time. The first year is awful, but you will get through it.

Suicide is incredibly difficult to process and it’s OK if you need help. Talk to your family and friends, talk to your clergyman or a therapist. You will need to vent, and it may be easier to do that to someone you don’t know than to your family.

You say we, so I assume you’ve got a family of your own. Hug your wife, hug your kids. Kids can be an awesome distraction and mood booster (they can also piss you off to no end, so take a break from them if you need to).

Different people deal with grief differently. However you deal with grief is an appropriate way. As messed up as it sounds, it’s OK to laugh, just like it’s OK to cry or be angry. Your brain will do all sort of weird stuff and you’ll have all sorts of strange moods trying to work your way through this.

davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com > BaconSandwich is tasty.
05/02/2018 at 10:57

Damn... I’m sorry...

BaconSandwich is tasty. > bob and john
05/02/2018 at 12:26

500 km away or so. Dad and the kids have a lot of family in the same city, which is good. Extending an offer to stay with us might be a good idea, though. Thanks for the suggestion.